When Friendships catch fire
The saying “fall in love with your best friend” has led me astray in the past. I've left behind a trail of lost best friends and broken hearts in the name of finding that great love of my life. I won't blame anyone but myself. When I think back to the very idea of 'best friends' I had as a younger woman, I realize that I loved the idea of a best friend more than actually being one. I wanted the fairytale because they say those are the best relationships. This thought was fostered by all the high school movies I grew up watching. As I transitioned to adulthood, I never really sought out friendships for the purpose of relationships but I wouldn’t date anyone if we weren’t friends first. Some of my more memorable relationships actually started out as friendships as did my memorable heartbreaks. In one case, I had tried to transition the friendship into something more only to fail spectacularly. I ended up losing the friend and in another case, the friendship went on
